Family is a huge deal. Marriage is the beginning of a family. And Christ should be at the center of every marriage. This is why successful family starts and ends with the Savior.
[churchpack_superquote]”The husband and wife are of equal worth before God, since both are created in God’s image. The marriage relationship models the way God relates to his people. A husband is to love his wife as Christ loved the church. He has the God-given responsibility to provide for, to protect, and to lead his family. A wife is to submit herself graciously to the servant leadership of her husband even as the church willingly submits to the headship of Christ. She, being in the image of God as is her husband and thus equal to him, has the God-given responsibility to respect her husband and to serve as his helper in managing the household and nurturing the next generation.”[/churchpack_superquote]
— Article XVIII. The Family. Baptist Faith and Message 2000
Life would be better if we stopped thinking of husband and wife separately but, instead, lived life together, serving one another. My wife supports me, and I her. We both cook. I am mainly the supporting chef. I do the laundry, because we have a small child and the laundry mat isn’t the easiest to get to with him. She works full-time as a mom. I work full-time out of the house. So when I get home, it’s a wonderful time for me to love her and work hard/enjoy serving my family. Yet, she generally manages (this doesn’t mean she does everything, but oversight as well) the house and children. I generally manage the finances and make the final decision (we talk about what decision should be made) on family direction. We both love our lives. When there is a disagreement, we talk about the issue until there is an agreement on things (sometimes I’m wrong and other times she is, mostly it’s both of us wrong on some point). Problems typically happen when we become prideful and have unrealistic expectations of each other. As the BF&M says, I have the God-given responsibility to provide for, to protect, and to lead my family. My wife is to submit herself graciously to the my servant leadership even as the church willingly submits to the headship of Christ. Those are huge scriptural imperatives for us both.
We are fallen and in need of grace, however. My wife has been God’s tool of sanctification in my life, and I in hers. It’s great to live life on life on mission with such a wonderful woman! And marriage is a huge picture of the gospel. The Lord has blessed us with a great relationship. As a part of that blessing, God has opened doors for gospel conversation because of our marriage. Yes, marriage is an excellent way for us to focus on God and His hand in our lives. Cut the pride; love the family; display Christ.